Taking a Chance.......

We are all taught in life to be careful. Careful what we say, what we do, how we act, what to eat, who to trust. From a young age we are taught precautions.

Even after we grow up those precautions are still with us. Has anyone really thought about what would happen if we step out of our comfort zones! What if we just decided to take a chance on life and say how we really feel toward someone. If we decide to give a stranger in need a helping hand, what do you think would happen? Giving your love to someone without expectations,you might find that someone loves you too. Take that chance to live your life.

Take that chance to make a big life change, so you would never regret not taking that step. When you never try you will never know if it will work. In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take.

You can't go through life protecting yourself from everything. You have to take chances,because if you don't then you might as well not be living.

I would rather have a life of "OH WELLS" than a life of "WHAT IF's".

                  " Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly." author Robert F. Kennedy

DON'T DIE WONDERING!!!!!!

Expectations

Expectation is a strong feeling that something will happen. Through out our life we expect things to happen and get upset if it doesn't. Expecting things can be disappointed when it doesn't happen for you.

Sometimes we expect more from others because we would do that much for them and when they don't live up to our expectations we become disappointed. 

What messes us up through life is the picture in our head of how it suppose to be and many times it doesn't turn out that way.

Expect more from yourself then from others because expectation from others will just disappoint you if they don't meet your standards. Don't expect things to happen, it's better to feel surprised then to be disappointed.

Learn to love without condition. Talk without bad intentions. Give without any reason. Most of all care for people without any expectations.

                                   "Act without EXPECTATIONS"  author Lao Tzu

Live and be happy!!!!

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Loving Yourself

We all know that February 14th is Valentine's Day, the day that love and desires are expressed with flowers and candy to the one you love. The day that you get recognized as the individual of someone's heart.

What happens to the individual that doesn't have a person to share that romantic day with? Just because you did not receive that box of candy  or flowers on Valentine day doesn't mean you are not loved.

You don't need someone to validate love for you  when you love yourself. The good thing about loving yourself is that it is done all year long not just one day of the year. The sweetness that you feel all year won't melt or get eaten up in just one day, the smell of roses through out the year is better than just for one day. The flowers that bloom in your heart will never die and always will be remembered.

You need to be proud that the validation of love for yourself is something you don't need someone to do for you. You are fortunate that you love and show appreciation for yourself all year long not for just one day. On February 15th you are still in love with yourself, be proud that the only one that can make you truly happy is you.

Let us know that when we love ourselves Valentine's Day is everyday.

                       " F. L. Y.----First Love Yourself and others will come next" author unknown

Give yourself a Hug!!!!!!

You make a Difference

We all go through our busy life's not thinking of the impact that we have on each other everyday. The time we smiled at a person in passing not realizing that person maybe going through some hard times and needed someone to notice they exist, or that time you helped someone in the supermarket getting something off the shelve because they were unable to reach it.

Can you think of anything this week that you did that made a difference in someone's life?

 Let me give you a little hint: what about making dinner for your family, the time you called a friend to say hello and talked for hours, telling someone you love them, holding the door for someone to go through, making someone laugh that felt down in the dump, listening to someone that had a hard da or giving someone a helping hand up. When you think that you don't make a difference with small effects,remember that one rain drop raises the ocean, little things make a difference.

So, as you go through your busy life just remember every time you do a good deed for another person you are making a difference in their life. You make a differences because you exist.

"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."   author Dr. Maya Angelou

Make Someone Smile today!!!

Taking Time for Ourselves

We become so busy doing our everyday chores and family obligations that we have a tendency to forget ourselves. Through out the year we need to stop and provide ourselves with some happy moments.Take time to do what makes our souls happy. 

Time for those long awaited get together, sharing conversations with long time friends, sitting back and reading a good book, catching  up on personal happiness (whatever that may be). Time is your friend, treat it with care, enjoy it's company deeply.

Just taking a moment to remember who you are and  how important you are to yourself. Remembering what you are striving toward and what you wish to accomplish in your future. Time is not guarantee to anyone, but it does allow you to enjoy those special moments of the days you are given. Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters.

The two most powerful warriors in this world are patience and time. Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lose it you can never get it back.

There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important things. (Brian Tracy)

"Time is more valuable then money. You can get more money but you can not get more time" author Jim Rohn

MAKE TIME TO BE Happy!!!

Reaching Out for Change

Making changes in most of our lives is not a simple process. Making changes is pretty scary ,but, what is even more frightening is REGRET for not making that change.

In order for us to move forward in our lives there are going to have to be changes made. Your life does not get better by chance it get better by change. (John Rohn)

A change in behavior begins with a change in the heart and mind. You feel that there is more for you out there and you set a plan in motion to move toward that truth. Every new day is another chance to change your life.

If you want something in your life you've never had, you will have to do something you've never done. Change is never easy, we fight to hold on and we fight to let go.

Don't fear change embrace it and appreciate what it can do for you.

"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another"    author Anatole France

Change is POSSIBLE!!!!

HAPPINESS

What is HAPPINESS? Happiness is different for everyone. Some of us it might take very little to make us happy and be pleased with life. On the other hand some of us it would take heaven and earth together to make us smile. 

No matter how we get there, being happy, the trick is to stay there. Life has it way of making us unhappy by the daily games that it likes to play on our lives.I call them games because there are winners attached to the games of life. Either you win the game or you let the event that happened win the game.

If you can remember that happiness is a direction in life and not a place and that the direction can be changed if you want the game to have a different ending. As long as we live, there will be challenges between happiness and unhappiness, that's life. The direction you choose to take will determine the emotional high you will have or not have.

As you go through your daily lives holding onto your happiness remember the secret of happiness is to admire without desire, (Carl Sandbury).

"plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn't stop to enjoy it"  author William Feather

BE HAPPPY!!!

Stepping forward from FEAR

As we enter into the new year with new hopes and dreams to accomplish in 2015, we need to remember that in order to accomplish your dreams you must do it without fear.

There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve and that is the fear of failure. That step into the unknown can cause feeling of uncertainty and uneasiness, let us try not to be fearless just to fear less.

Fear is not something that is real, it is a product of our thoughts. Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen. The word fear is such a small word with so much control.

Let's kick fear in the butt this year and move forward with our dreams, become what we always wanted to be and do what we always dreamt of. To Live, Love and be Happy.

"Life is short, live it: Love is rare, grab it: Anger is bad, dump it: Fear is awful, face it" author unknown

 

Let's make those steps forwards!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

New Beginnings

Now that we have all shared in the magical day, Christmas, it is time to start the next step of our holiday adventure.

Christmas time was giving and receiving gifts, cheers, laughter and love. Now it is time to sit back and recap our adventures in 2014. Did it turn out the way you had planned at the beginning of the year? Those resolutions you made for yourself have you accomplished them yet?

This week is when we review the events that happened to us through out the year. Things we learned, things we did, some regrets and some wonderful accomplishments, people we lost and new loves we found, all that occurred In 2014.

Some of us look forward to a New Year to be able to let go of the past year events and move forward into your next new adventures. Others don't like the New Year because letting go of things they know and feel comfortable with is hard to do. Change is always difficult because we don't know what to expect.

If we looked at our lives as a staircase the only way to reach  the top is to take one step at a time. There will always be stairs to climb in our life, but If we just keep making those steps forward we will successfully get to the top of those challenges.

So, as we move forward onto our New Year, I want to wish you all a healthy, prosperous and happy 2015.

"It's a new year, with new fear, time to take on new chances, and make new advances"  author unknown

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

 

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Christmas Time

We are almost to that magical day, CHRISTMAS. Stepping out of our doors in the evening time makes us feel like we just stepped into a glittering wonderland. Houses decked out with ornaments and blinking lights, parties and get together with friends and family,sharing cheers and laughter through out the week.

We all can't wait to see what will appear under our tree on that magical day. Getting up and unwrapping our wonders of the week, anxious to see the gifts that were wrapped with so much love.

I call that day magical because we all get something that we weren't expecting, something good or something different. It's magical because no matter what we receive on that day we will smile and except because the person that gave it to you did it out of love.

Christmas is the only time of the year that we all come together in love with smiles on our faces. Even if the gift was not what you wanted the love behind that gift is what you needed.

Some of us will receive the gift we wanted, others might receive a gift unexpectedly, in any case that gift of love that you got was given to you from the heart.

We need to stop and appreciated everything you will receive on that magical day,more than that, we need to remember who loves us.

"Giving and sharing with others makes life magical" author Gwen Snypes- Jones

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU ALL!!!!

Blessings

As we get closer to that magical time of Christmas things certainly become  more hectic. At this time of the year with everything we have to complete we can forget to count our blessings. Rushing around shopping, wrapping and attending social gathering with friends and family all take time.

We  get stuck in traffic going to the mall, lines in the store are continuous around the aisles, people become frustrated and those smile we once saw are not there.

It would be a good time to stop and look at the some of the blessings we have. The blessing that we have a car to get stuck in traffic with. The blessing that we are able to walk and stand without  being assisted. The blessing that our friends and family members are still here to enjoy for another day.

I came across this quote that I would like to share with you:

"Live your truth, Express your Love, Share your enthusiasm, Take action toward your dreams, Walk the Talk, Dance and Sing to your music, Embrace your blessings, Make today worth remembering" author Dr. Steve Maraboli

 Remember the 3 "L"- LIVE LAUGH and LOVE.

No Stopping Naughty

We are now in the month of being naughty, DECEMBER, Christmas month.  December seems to turn  on what I call a "NAUGHTY BUTTON OF GIVING" 

Yes! the time of the year when being naughty is OK.  

This time of the year brings out the naughty that make us happy.

• the time of year when we share our time and hearts with family and friends even if we are busy
• the time of year when we don't stop and think about the cost of things but whether or not it is going to make someone smile
• the time of year when you give more than just a  gift, you share yourself
• the time of year when sitting back putting your feet up and relaxing with family, even though the kitchen needs to be clean
• the time of year when you walk in the snow/rain and steal a hug from someone you care for
• the time of year when you go play in the park instead of doing household chores and laundry
• the time of year when you hang the mistletoe so that you can steal a kiss
• the time of year when you fall asleep in the arms of someone special after a hard day of shopping
• the time of year when you sneak out of work  to go pick up that special gift
• the time of year when Love is truly magical

 There is no stopping naughty for the holidays. Besides being naughty like this we should  wish for all year long not just in December.

                    "Let's be naughty and save Santa the trip" author Gary Allan

Come let's be naughty together!

Staying Happy

When the holidays begin to arrive some us have a hard time getting into the spirit of being happy. We forget what the holidays really mean,that good feeling of sharing with each other.

Happiness is a mental and an emotional state of well being identified by positive or pleasant emotions. Some of us can be in that state of happiness without even trying, others must continually remind themselves to be happy. It is what you choose to be.  We are not perfect but we can always be in a place of well being.

When you think you're not happy with your life, always think that someone is happy simply because you are in their life. This was told to me by a very  special friend.

Don't make the holidays a burden on your bank account, simple things can be done to show appreciation and love. A card, a smile given to each other, a moment of conversation, time spent together, a hug, all these can be giving without breaking the bank.

While going into the holidays just remember to keep your heart opened and share the love that is within ourselves, that's all that is needed to make you happy, always.

"Happiness is a decision.You are as happy as you decide to be." Author Unknown

Enjoy your life!!

Giving Thanks

As we all know Thanksgiving Day Is this coming Thursday.  What a great time to look back on our year and see what we have to be thankful for.

So many of our family and friends are not here to say thanks this year. That is why giving thanks should be done daily not just once a year.  Thanksgiving isn't promised to us in November every year, so we should be thankful everyday we open our eyes.

Be thankful that there are people in our lives that have made a difference. We all have touched someone in our daily life.  Some good touches and some bad touches, the bad teaches us to appreciate more of the good.

When we look around the world today there is a lot of bad things that are happening, they get told daily. The good things in life seem not to be as popular. Let us ring our own bell and be thankful for all the good things that has happened to us in our life time.

Stop, Look and Listen words we should live by. Stop and appreciate what you have and the good friends around you; Look and see what you have already accomplished in your life and be grateful; Listen to the sound of success and gratitude that other are giving you.

Giving thanks should not just be a religious event but we should be thankful for all things and new people that crosses our path.

Yes! we have a lot to be thankful for, so let us learn to appreciate life and start saying Thank you for living.

"It is not happy people who are thankful, It is thankful people who are happy"  author unknown

Happy Thanksgiving!

A Child's Trust

A  child's trust is unconditional, they trust that they will be feed daily, they trust they will be loved, they trust their parents will protect them without question. Trust in it's simplest form comes from their hearts.

A child's trust is truly the definition of love which we all should have. A firm belief in ourselves to trust our abilities and strengths.

We as adults forget the simplest form of existence. Trusting in ourselves and thoughts is what allows us to trust others. As we grow into adulthood we are taught not to trust strangers and songs are written about not trusting your feelings, being lied to and disappointed by others seems to lead  us to mistrust people. Trust is a feeling that gets beaten up and most of the time destroyed by life's experiences.

To return to the time when we were a child, when we  trusted and loved everything with no strings on life, days were so much simpler. Trust is a feeling that is so simple but gives us so much fulfillment. After so many disappointments in life, trust is an emotion that soon becomes so misunderstood. It becomes a game of proof- "prove that I can trust you". Going through life with so mistrust will leave you bitter and lonely.

A child's trust is honest, true and innocent. A child gives it freely without conditions. To be able to trust as a child is a blessing. To trust as a child is truly  love.

"Trust your heart what is true feels good. What is false causes doubt"   Monica Deliz

Trust In yourself!

Stepping Forward

Some of us have become stuck in one place in our lives for a long time. We are unable to step forward and release the past that holds us because of the unknown factors. 

In life there are no guarantees that stepping forward is going to be easy, but you must step forward to be able to enjoy all of life's treasures that are for you. There is no one that can tell you when to step, the only one that is able to determine that is you.

There is always that fear of the unknown and if we don't think about it we believe that fear won't touch our lives. The funny thing is, if we stay where we are and never take that step forward fear has already got control of you and you are unaware of it's present.

Making changes in our lives is a difficult challenge but it allows us to grow and become all that we can be. Changes are a necessary part of life that exposes you to new adventures.

If you notice I say stepping forward instead of moving forward because every change you make in life should be one step at a time, not something to jump into without thinking. Making one step at a time allows you to adjust to your new surroundings and it also allows you to make other changes before you take your next step.

Life  isn't just existing, it should be lived and enjoyed. We were never create to live in this world along with no laughter or happiness. Sharing your heart is life at it finest.

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be" Unknown Author

Keep Stepping!!!!

Strength vs Belief

You are probably wondering why I put these two words,strength and belief, against each other. They are really two words that support each other. The reason I say that is your belief is what grows your strength.

Strength is a word that is defined as being strong and to have muscular power, vigor. Strength also means to have moral powers. firmness or courage. Courage does come from being strong. Strength is what enables a person to face difficulties even if they don't want to but believes they are strong enough to  stand up to anything .

You can have strength but the belief that you are strong is what gets you through your challenges. 

Belief is the motor that drives your strength,if you don't believe that you have the strengths to  become the person you are suppose to be, then you wont. To believe that you are capable of doing your best, living life to the fullest takes a strong person.

Once the belief in your strength is turned on, being able to accomplish yours dreams will be unlimited.

 Some of us have been carrying around this strength for years and never activated the belief that you can accomplish your dreams.  Once that belief is activated you will see the first step to ultimate happiness. Believe in yourself and you will be the strongest force moving forward in your life, an unstoppable human being.

                      "If you change the belief first, changing the action is easier " Peter McWilliams

Believe the strength is within yourself!

Death is not the End

Death is a word that everyone is uncomfortable with because it causes so much pain. The cycle of life is wonderful but in that cycle there is death, but it doesn't have to be the end.

We think of death as the end because we are not able to see the person or touch the person we love. What if we believed that once we died we took on another form of life. A form that surrounds us with love, guidance and support. A form that will always be with us(told to me by wise person).

If you are a religious person you would believe that this person has become an angel, science believes that this spirit has become an energy force.

Our beliefs are what controls our thoughts and what keeps hope alive. So, when a person passes it doesn't  stop us from loving them, admiring them, communicating with them, remembering the good and bad you experienced with them and sharing the laughter and tears we had with them.

As long as we keep that person in our heart and remember them regularly that individual will always be alive to us and provide us with the joy once shared.

In time you will be able to remember them without the pain. So, shed those tears, just for now, to help wash away the pain you are experiencing, this will enable you to begin to find the joy you need.

I recently lost someone very special to me this week and the way I want to honor him is to remember what he taught me about life. One of many things I learned from him was how to recognize happiness in my life, the memory of him will never perish.

    "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." unknown author

 I will always keep the joy we shared James!

The Love Experience

Love is not just a word but a profound emotion. The word is so seldom used today that we have to look up the definition to know what it really means.They write love songs to express the feelings, they make movies to show how you should act in love, but they have yet to share with us how one stays in love. That is left to our imaginations.

Love Is an experience of the hearts not the mind. This is probably the only time the mind has no control over how we feel and no explanations for our actions, but the mind still gets the privilege to feel wonderful and happy. If we could stay in that mind set we would have  heaven on earth all the time.

We all have experience some type of love: love for a child, a parent, a friend, a lover, a spouse and hopefully for ourselves. In order to share love we must first love ourselves. 

To be able to share your heart with another person Is fantastic.Two hearts working as one makes one feel that they have conquered the world and they are standing on top of it. Love is amazing!

Even if there's a chance of that ultimate feeling ending and hurt filling up that space where joy and happiness use to be, don't avoid sharing your heart because you are afraid of getting hurt. Life is to short not to experience love with another.

"it's okay to lose your pride over someone you love. Don't lose someone you love over your pride."   unknown author

open your heart today!

A Special Friendship

Sometimes in life you meet a special person that becomes a friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it.

For a person to become a friend is like a gift that gets unwrapped once and keeps on sharing all the time. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open to find your rewards. Someone you can share your secrets with and they won't  judge you for your actions. This is a FOREVER  friendship.

Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and takes the good with the bad. Stays with you through the calm side,the wild side,the loving side and that angry side. You share laughter,tears and a whole bunch of smiles.

When you have a forever friend that really cares they always want the best for you. A friends' love is gold , the longer you hold onto it the more valuable it becomes.

So, if you're lucky enough to find such a friend, you should feel special and complete because you have found a forever friend and forever has no end.

      "of all the friends I've met, you're the one I won't forget and if I die before you do I'll get to heaven and wait for you."  unknown author

Cherish your Forever Friends !!!