Empower Your Inner Self...

We all try to keep our outer body firm and young looking. We work our mind by keeping the knowledge up to date. 

We exercise our body so that we can look good and continue to enjoy life's pleasures. We exercise our mind by learning new life events, reading and keeping up with new ways of communicating.

But, what have you done for your inner self? Are you feeding your inner self with strength and encouragement? Are you conditioning your inner self with happiness and pride?

You shouldn't depend on other people to make you happy, maybe you will need them for enjoyment, but not to make you whole. We must learn to tune out other voices when you are trying to improve your inner self. Trust in who you are!

That inner you needs as much attention as your outer shell and your mind in order to grow the person you can truly be. Your inner self is your GPS of life, the instrument that will keep you going in the correct direction when set in the proper mode. This setting is going to help you grow your strength and fulfill all parts of yourself.

You can look fantastic and fit but have no guidance in your life. You could be the smartest person around but still feel unsatisfied and weak, Why is that??

Look inside and see what you have done for your inner you, lately. Have you been taking care of your inner self like you do with the shell that people can see and gives compliments on?

Are you feeding the inner you with the nourishment it needs to grow and makes you feel terrific? What you empower inside will reflect brightly on the outside. Beauty only lives within your soul and then gets transferred to your mind. From there it will light up the world on the outside.

Are you thinking that if you take care of everything on the outside that the inner you will grow? No, it doesn't work that way. You must empower yourself with strength, love, confidence and happiness on the inside, constantly. Once that is created no one can take that away from you, not even time. The outer shell will go through changes in time. Appearances changes, figures begin to change with age and the skin start to reflect time. The strength inside, if feed correctly, will be stronger than ever. Your beauty, strength and confidence won't change. You will be brighter than ever in life.

 Once you continue to grow the inside it gets stronger and better with age. The thing that keeps you young minded is what you empower and grow on the inside. What's inside doesn't change it will continue to grow and improve.

When your strength comes from the inside you are able to survive life's ups and downs with grace and still stay strong and confident. The only thing you will depend on is your strength. By empowering your inner self you will always be strong, beautiful and full of life.

Empowering your inner self helps you build and maintain a strong foundation, the bases of life.

Everyone says that the eyes are the window to the soul, make sure when someone looks in your eyes they see strength, beauty and an independently happy individual.

Never forget who you are and always keep that GPS focus toward your future.

The Listener.....

We all have something to say throughout our lifetime and we need to be heard. To discover someone that listens to you, without criticizing your thoughts is a delight.

The process of growing our thoughts and dreams are important and we grow them faster when we are able to express them to others. Expressing your thoughts to someone that actually takes the time to listen and guide you is a blessing.

A listener will allow you to express what you desire and will provide guidance and direction to you. A listener is a special type of person who will be there to help you focus and keep you on track.

A listener is that person that provides you with a shoulder to lean on and will help you up when you fall. We all need that person to trust our thoughts to and who will provide a helping hand, not a lecture. 

To lose the person that listens to you will make your world go deaf. No one to hear your dreams for the future.

We all know plenty of people that are willing to tell you what to do, give you their opinion and tell you when you are doing something wrong. A listener will provide you with productive suggestions and allows you to make your own decisions.

Listening is the ability to receive and interpret messages in the communication process.

Listening is an art to all effective communication. Without the ability to listen effectively, messages are easily misunderstood. 

So, let us all see if we can improve our listening skills and learn to listen better to others.

Remember Me!

As we age in life the one thing everyone wishes to know is how they will be remembered. 

The most important thing in life is to live it and not worry about how things will be when you are no longer on this earth. Did you treat everyone as well as you should? Did you teach someone how to love and smile today?

You will be remembered for the type of person you are and how you made people feel. Were you truthful and honest? Were you a giving and loving individual? 

The secret for being remembered is sharing yourself with others, not just sexually but emotionally. Your graciousness, your caring, your giving of yourself, the unlimited amount of love you share with others, how you made them feel about themselves, remembering them in time of their uncertainty, is what everyone will remember about you.

When you open yourself up to others and share who you are it may allow some people to take advantage of you. Sometimes you give and give and get nothing in return, but there are people out there who will offer you just as much or more assistance to you. Don't stop giving and sharing who you are; because being you is what makes the world a brighter place to be. Your are a star.

It time to take a look at how you are living and if you are doing things in your life that will be remembered. Like having a smile on your face in times of unhappiness, being the happy person in times of sadness, giving love in times of being hurt, being strong. 

Trust the fact you are being your best and sharing the best part of life with others, yourself. You will be remembered for who you are and what you left. Live a worthwhile life with love and you will always be remembered.

Don't make me a memory while I am still alive.

Walk with Me!

As we travel through life and grow who we are, it becomes evident that when you walk alone you still get yourself where you wish to be but once you get there who do you share and tell your achievements to. Only you know what you have achieve and how hard your journey was to get there. Sharing your accomplishments helps others to grow with you. 

When you walk side by side with another, it makes the journey easier not less challenging. Friends walk together through a single path to help accomplished a goals for both of you or just to help your steps be lighter. 

Walk with me and we can establish our goals. Walk with me to discover the better part of the world. Walk with me to discover love and appreciation. Walk with me so we won't have to be alone. Walk with me so that we can enjoy each others company. Walk with me so we could laugh together. Walk with me too grow our feelings and become as one. 

The person that dances in the rain with you will most likely walk with you in the storm. 

Naked and Alone

Sometimes in our life we feel so exposed to the world as if we just removed all our clothes in order to feel a purpose. That exposure makes us vulnerable and open to hurt and disappointment. Dealing with that vulnerability makes us feel as if we are fighting an uphill battle, alone.

Feeling naked allows us to see ourselves more clearly. Being naked strips away all of the pretending and hiding, it shows the real you. 

Seeing yourselves vulnerable helps us to choose a protected cover that will make you proud to display. Such as confidence, belief, love and independence for yourselves and hearing your own voice of life.

Remember, you don't come into this world without the help of a another person, your mom, so reaching for a helping hand to help you get strong and move forward doesn't make you a weak person.

Believe in yourself and the disappointments in life will be easier to identify and correct.

When you have someone in your life that cares and loves you it will provide the cover and the companionship you would need.

"I no longer look for good in people, I search for the real...because while good is often dress in fake clothing, real is naked and proud no matter the scars" author Chishala Lishomwa

The Awakening....

I believe that the worst thing in life is to walk through it in the dark. So many of us do this every day.

You get up every morning and do the same thing blindly. Get dress and go to work in auto mode. Get through our days without a thought and return home. We function blindly through out our daily routine.

We as human beings learn a pattern throughout our life and you do the same movement all through your life, until one day you have an awakening,

One day you wake up and everything around you seems different. This requires you to participate with your eyes wide open. You don't get up and fix the same breakfast because your routine has now changed. You get dress and wear something totally different than what you would wear because you love feeling beautiful today. You go to work with a different frame of mind and notice that the challenge of the day isn't the job but the attitude you take, everyone is different. Your eyes are wide open.

You must begin to recognized that life isn't just a four letter word to just exist in, but a word that means to live. It is never to late to wake up and begin to live. Sometime you wake up on your own and realize that you haven't been living or there is someone that offers a helping hand to show you a direction to awaken you. Whether it is you or someone that always knew the greatness inside you the results are the same, an awaken has began.

I hope you awake to find a beautiful life and your heart continue to seek love.

HAPPY Mother's Day

M - is for the millions of things she does for you

O - is for the outstanding time she devotes to you

T - is for the tears she shed to save you

H - is for the heart of purest gold that she has

E - is for the extraordinary person she is

R - is for respectful you should be giving

A mother is a unique person. She performs many duties through out her lifetime. Such as a doctor, when you get injured and sick, a cook to make sure you are well fueled, a teacher to teach you the rules of life, a storyteller to embrace your imagination, a law and order person to correct the wrong way you are going (with some penalties), a person to provide you with clean clothes, to give you love when you need comforting, to walk with you to keep you on the straight and narrow, to love you no matter what.

As a mom myself, I have found no higher position I could hold in this lifetime. To see your children develop into productive individuals is the best reward you could have.

So, if your mother is still alive be thankful and give her the best gift in the world, Yourself.  If your mother is no longer here physically show love for her in your heart by remembering her!

  

Say "THANK YOU" to your mom!

Friendship...

How many of you know what friendship means? By definition it is the emotion or conduct of friends. Being a friend is more of an emotional feeling because it is shared from the heart. 

What draws people together as friends is common interest; history of circumstances; common values and equality. A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you just the way you are. True friends are very hard to find, difficult to leave, impossible to forget. True friends are not just there when it is convenient but when it is not.

Time and distance does nothing to demolish the bond you have with those you call true friends. True friends are seen through the heart not through the eyes. A real friend walks into your life when the world walks out.

Fake friends are like shadows, they follow you in the sun but leaves you when it is dark. A friend is with you through out your ups and downs, smiles and frowns. A person's true colors is shown when you are no longer beneficial to their life, which means they were not friends from the start. Friendship has countless value that just keep gaining value.

Friendship means understanding not always agreeing. It means forgiveness not forgetting. It means the memories last, even if contact is lost.

Friendship should never be taken for granted, because it is precious and powerful for the one you are sharing it with.

            "A single rose can be my garden...a single friend my world." author Leo Buscaglia

BFF!!!

Hidden Feelings......

The best things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, it must be felt with the heart and that is your feelings.

Feelings for another individual sometimes can hurt you more than anything else, but hiding your feelings can be more hurtful.

The more you hide your feelings the more they show. The more you deny your feelings the more they grow. Sometimes the idea of telling your feelings to someone terrifies you. Afraid they may not return the emotion or just laugh at the idea.

The person who hides their feelings usually care a great deal about another individual. You hide your feelings because sometimes it may seem like no body cares. You are afraid to share your feelings because of the fear of getting hurt or rejected.

A lot of the time what you don't say owns you and what you hide controls you. Never saying how you feel but always feeling the emotion will continually hurt and depress you.

Emotions just happen, sometimes there is no reason or explanations why you have feelings for another person. We can't control who you care for.

Waiting to tell someone how you feel may be to late, they might be gone or maybe moved on to another person.

If you have feelings for someone you should let them know. Who knows you might make their day, if nothing else it will definitely make you feel good.

"Hiding our true thoughts and feelings is just one example of how we give our power away." author Lauren Mackler

SHARE YOUR FEELINGS!!!

The Frown behind the Smile.....

 We all have good and bad days that we survive, but there are some days we struggle through just to smile.

Everyone that is sporting that smile on the outside isn't always in a pleasant place in their life and feel if they sport a smiling face it will encourage well being.

That smile could be just a cover up to hide the pain and mistrust that they feel. A frown is a smile turned upside down and your view of yourself  is what allows the direction of the impression to be placed on your face.  When you are smiling, It allows people to think that everything is going well.

Do you feel more comfortable around a smiling person, laughing and joking all the time, or a person that is always complaining about their life?  The answer of course is the person that is happy with their life makes you feel more comfortable. But, maybe if more people would stop and listen to the ones' complaining about their life, it might just help them turn their frown upside down and make you feel happy with yourself, also.

Being comfortable with who you are can be difficult at times. Just remember always smiling and not facing the pain inside will destroyed the life you wish to live, it will cause upset and dismay down the road. Being who you are and most important excepting yourself will make you smile every time:)

Happiness will reflect the true smile on the outside and nothing will be able to turn that smile upside down. When you believe in yourself and have peace of mind you can maintain the smile daily and that will continually move you in a positive direction.

Remember love, truth and strength comes from the inside, the stronger you are the happier you are. So, grow that personal strength and feel your power.

So, let's start living and stop just existing in your own life. Let others know who you are and how you feel, stop hiding behind a smiling face and make it a REAL smile.

"Before you put on a frown, make absolutely sure there are no smiles available." author Jim Beggs

BE YOU!!!!

Knock! Knock! WHOSE THERE?

Some of us are so afraid to ask someone for a helping hand. We treat it like a sign of weakness or disgrace to even think of excepting that help. Don't be shy about asking someone for help, it just shows that you area human being in need of assistance.

Asking for help or assistance show an inner strength and truly shows you know yourself. Being strong enough to stand alone is fine, smart enough to know when you need help and brave enough to ask for it.

A problem gets heavier when the only person carrying it is you. Whatever your worries are, it is better shared than not. Sometimes asking for help is the bravest move you can make. You don't have to go it alone.

There are people that want to help you and allowing them to do that is a gift not a burden to them. But, you have to take the first step and open up to them. Having someone help you doesn't mean you have failed, It just means you are not alone.

You are a strong person, but every now and then you also need someone to take your hand and say "everything will be Okay." To comfort you because you deserve it. Remind yourself that it's okay not to be perfect.

"KINDNESS" is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

" What I learned is that I don't have to know all the answers and if I don't, I don't have to pretend that I do." - Simon Sined-

CARING!!!!

Is It Real?

Is love real or is it just a word! As we approach Valentine's Day we begin to think about feelings and emotions related to that word "LOVE". 

Love is an intense feeling of deep affection. A feeling of deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. I believe that we all have felt or given love to someone; like the love for a child, a pet, or significant other, each on different levels.

With the most romantic day approaching flowers shops, candy stores and stuff animals will be a big money maker. So, is this Love? Do you believe that the only way to show someone you love them, once a year, is through flowers and candy?

Real love is not based on romance, candle light dinners, flowers, candy and walks along the beach. In fact, it is based on respect, compromised, care and trust.

Real love doesn't care about body type, you looking like a model or wallet size. it only cares about what's inside. So, stop trying to squeeze into that size 2, caking on make-up to appear younger, stretching your face to get rid of those life lines, sucking in your gut in order not to show your love handles. Love is not complicated, people make it so. 

Sometimes one doesn't even know they are in love until it actually hits them in the face, because love happens slowly. You realize that you miss that friend a little more each day and all you want to do is share your day and nights with them. To comfort them from a long hard day, to wrap them in your arms and tell them everything is going to be alright, to be there when they need a hug, to make them feel special.

Love is such an honest and compassionate emotion that only cost you a little time. Do you have the time to share your love? 

When you notice that the person you feel so open to, comfortable with and understands you is not there it makes you feel lonely and forgotten. You might not admit that it is love, because love is truly an emotion that doesn't get expressed or recognized a lot, but once it has been identified it makes one smile.

True love doesn't have a happy ending because love doesn't end. It grows into the biggest, overwhelming emotion that you will ever experience. Love is just a word until someone gives it meaning.

When you love someone they seem to consume your thoughts daily and nothing can ease those thoughts until you see or hear from them. When you love someone you don't just give up on them, you stand by them.

Love is the most beautiful thing to experience, hardest thing to earn and the most painful thing to lose. It is very hard to let go of someone you love, especially when that love has grown from a friendship.

Show your LOVE all year long because It is real!

      "To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." author Karen Sunde

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

When Love Dies.....

I am sure must of you have been in love in your life time. That feeling of complete happiness and being fulfill with joy. Fast heartbeat when ever their name is mentioned or they appear.  Love is such an enormous emotion. Just to say you love someone shouldn't be taken or said lightly, 

When love has died it means you have lost that connection with another individual.

 Relationships does not die a natural death. It gets murdered by ego, attitude, ignorance and lack of caring. Love dies only when individuals stop growing. When love is not fed (by attention, romance, laughter, sincerity, thoughts, caring, togetherness) it dies hard.

You never really stop loving someone, you just learn to live without them.

Waiting for someone to show and give you love is a sign of patience. Anyone can say "I Love you," but not everyone can wait and prove it's true.

A person never stops trying to show the person they love how must they mean to them, unless they have stop loving the person for who they are. This happens to a lot of relationships in today's time.

Nobody dies from a lack of sex, it is from a lack of love that kills a person's emotions. We should always look forward to the day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never would work with anyone else. 

"Love lives on hope and dies when hope is DEAD. It is a flame which goes out from lack of fuel." author Charles Cotton

KEEP LOVE ALIVE!!!!

Your Beginnings...

As the new year begins so does your hopes and dreams. We should always look at the new year as a new start. Starting over is another opportunity to accomplish what we didn't in the previous year.

Think of your life as the hands on a clock, those hands never goes backward, only forward in time. The word beginning mean "the point in time which somethings starts," which is where you are now.

I know you have hear the saying, if only I could turn back the hands of time to allow yourself to go down a different road. You can't turn back the hands, but you can move forward and start something better.

If you didn't accomplish what you wanted in the past year you now get another shot at it, starting now.

Remember life isn't always about trying to fix something that's broken, it is about starting over and creating something better.

Starting today means to forget what's gone, appreciate what still remains and look forward to what's coming next. Strength is in the ability to persist and start over.

Starting over with a new pattern of thoughts, emotions, beliefs and new connections to the world.  Starting over again allows you another chance to make things rights.

Starting over doesn't mean giving up on your dreams, just moving forward.

            "Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." by Seneca

LET'S START!!!!!

A New Year!!!!

Some of us are happy to see the old year end and there are a lot of us who don't like a new year of unknown.

We need to embrace everyday and be grateful that you have a new beginning. Beginnings are hard to grasp but are necessary to grow. There are so many that didn't get to start over. To begin a new adventure in life is a blessing. We must always look forward to a new and better future.

To begin new means letting go of all the negativity, even if that are friends that don't add value to your life. We have the tendency to hold on because we are afraid to be alone. Being alone allows us to know and appreciate ourselves, to discover who we are and what we want.

Everyone doesn't appreciate your dream and therefore are unable or just unwilling to assist you with the steps you need to move forward. But that's OK because all you need is yourself confidence and approval.

STOP! and look back on the year that's pass and ask yourself did you utilize and benefit from the time you were given? Look at your accomplishments and be proud. When was the last time someone told you that they were proud of you? When was the last time your felt proud of yourself?

Go forward and list your dreams and goals for the new year and cross them off as you accomplish them and see if you can start making yourself proud.

Embrace the New Year with being positive, having hope, and staying happy. Follow your dreams and hopefully there will be someone in your life to help promote your dreams to continue to move forward.

Thank you all for following and reading my blogs of inspirations in 2016 and I hope to do you proud in the New Year, 2017.

   "A Journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step." - a Chinese Proverb

Happy New Years :)

A Recipe of Life...

As we prepare for the biggest day for thanks, this is a good time to look at all the recipes that will be cooked on "Thanksgiving Day". This might be a good time to look at the recipe for your life.

We all have a reason to be thankful, either for your health, your life and the love of your family and friends. Feeling thankful should not just be on "Thanksgiving Day" but all the time throughout the year.

The recipe of life is made of a full cup of happiness, a full cup of trust, a full cup of honesty and you throw in a cup and 1/2 of love.

Happiness is a guarantee for you to be able to rise above the nonsense of the day.

Trust is to be able for you and everyone you deal with to believe in themselves and you.

Honesty is something you need in order for people feel comfortable, trust and happy with you.

Love always shows your true feelings to others. Also more important, you are able to love yourself.

Mix all these ingredients together to create a true and honest you. To have a great relationship with yourself will allow you to make the best recipe for your life. Look inward to your heart to make this recipe brew.

All recipes can be changed or altered to make a better creation of yourself.

What is your recipe of life? Is it to be a better person, more truthful and loving? Once your recipe is decided on and completed, the person you wish to be will rise.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving and remember you are the only one that can create a difference in your recipe.

"You gave me your time, the most thoughtful gift of all." author Dan Zadra

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!

The First Time...

Everything in your life had to be learn for the first time. The first time you learn how to speak, your first steps, you first thought. All of these functions were learned.

Your first belief, your first hurt and disappointment, your first love and heartbreak. You have learned how to survive and rise above your upsets.

You will always have to be prepared for the first of everything. You don't know when you will have to face another first, but you should be able to reach back and see how you survived and handled the first time adventures and you were able to deal and move on.

As long as you live, there will always be a first time for something new. You will have good and bad first times, but you will learn and grow from all new adventures and move forward.

You can never make the same mistake twice, because the second time it's not a mistake, it's a CHOICE.     

            "There's a first time for everything." author Greg Owen

BE PREPARED!!!

Wake Up Call....

Some of us woke up this morning to a surprising event. We have no control of what happens in life. There has always been ups and downs in life and we all have survive them.

We as human being are very strong people and we need to look inside ourselves to find the strength that we all have. Let's not go around being angry and upset but hopeful because hope is the only thing stronger than fear. We learn from yesterday, we live for today and we hope for tomorrow.

Let us all fight against the hatred that we have all been exposed to in the last few months. Let us come together to show strength and unity with each other. Let us raise above the ugliness and shine the beauty that we all have within us.

Now is the time to look at our life and see how far we have come. Look at all the ups and downs that have occurred in our lifetime and how we rose above it and remained strong. Hope sometimes is all we have when we have nothing else. If we have hope, we have everything.

As we move forward, and we shall, look inside ourselves and reach deep down and pull up the strength and belief that we always had.

Life has just gave us lemons and it is up to us to make the best DAM lemonade we have ever made. We are stronger together and need to remain positive within ourselves.

We can not lose ourselves in anger but we need to fight to keep positivity. Don't allow anyone or anything to defeat our dreams.  Our dreams will never die unless we stop dreaming.

Trust yourself and believe in yourself, that you can and will move forward.

Another day has started, so let us all walk with our heads high because we all matter!

"Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape you future." Robert H. Schaller

"Hope is not a dream but a way of making dreams become reality." L.J. Suenens

STAY STRONG!!!!!!!!

Making Choices....

As we approach election day this week to choose the people that we believe will be the best person for this country, you need to stop and look at some of your life choices.

This is a good time for you to reflect on things and people in your life and take a look at the steps that got you where you are. A time to start making different choices to improve your life, because you are the driver of your changes.

Election time is a good time to look over your accomplishments and make changes to your goals. Especially those goals that were made and not achieved, because they may need some fine tuning. If you haven't elected to move forward in your life to improve where you are, now is a great time to start.

If you are one of those people that are still on the fence about your future think about the 3 C's of life: CHOICES, CHANCES, CHANGES. You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.

When you go into the voting booth to make a decision for the country, you might want to do the same for yourself. The decision that you choose on the ballet has no guarantee that it's going to work. Neither does the changes that you implement in your life, there are no guarantees in life. But, that should not stop you from making choices in your life. So, pull the lever in your life and take a chance to see the difference it could make. 

Because election day is the day to pick the best choice, it is a good time to look at your life and see if you picked the best choice for you.

"Remember, there are no mistake, only lessons. Love yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possible." author Cherie-Carter Scotts

TIME TO CHOOSE!!

What Scares You?

We all have different types of fears and some of those fears keep us from being who we really are.

Some of us are so afraid to share ourselves with others, to show affection, emotions or friendship to another individual. This is one type of fear that in some cases is hard to move past. That fear of letting others into your world frightens you so much, because hurt is always in the forefront and disappointment is always just around the corner. So, trusting others is scary.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure and it is our future, not our past, that most frightens us. If you live in fear of the future, because of what happened in your past, you will end up losing what you have in your present.

All human beings need to be loved and appreciated. Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. 

We can deal with fear as follows: forget everything and run or face everything and rise. It is your choice.

          " The fear we don't face becomes our limits." author Robin Sharma

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!